“Love is an action, not a feeling.”
For once, I am not too proud to admit that this statement, by Jacob at quite a pivotal moment, shook me. This is not what Walt Disney taught me. So I decided to find out where this idea came from and why I wasn’t familiar with it.
After a quick Google search, I found that M. Scott Peck, an American psychiatrist and author said:
“Love is not a feeling. Love is an action, an activity … Genuine love implies commitment and the exercise of wisdom … love as the will to extend oneself for the purpose of nurturing one’s own or another’s spiritual growth… True love is an act of will that often transcends ephemeral feelings of love cathexis. It is correct to say, ‘Love is as love does.’”
Looking through the rest of my search queries, I found this idea is cited from the Bible. This helps explain why I wasn’t familiar with it.
"Charity (love) suffereth long and is kind; charity envieth not, charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity never faileth."
This finding reminded me of another little poem I recognized, a translation of this Bible passage.
“Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous, love is never boastful or conceited; it is never rude or selfish; it does not take offense, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end.”
I guess I never understood, up until now. To me, the above phrase describes that love is… a wonderful thing. I explained my point-of-view to Jacob. He replied, “Charity! Self-less giving! How is that not love as an action?”
Yes, Jacob. You are right. Love is an action.